During the time when being single is deemed as the best way to be happy in life...with no responsibilities, no burdens, no liabilities and no ifs and buts.....a complete freedom....!!!
‘Living in’ if felt love and living out when did not click!..Wow... a pleasure of choosing and free from taking much mammoth decisions in life.
Some of my friends who chose to be single always wanted to know how do long married couples make their relationship work...How difficult or easy task is this... How am I managing with one man for this long??!!!.Though myself just few years married and committed, I wanted to pause and think over, what is known as old school of thought was actually worth all adjustments, settlements & pain by any of the partner...Is it getting married and spending rest of the life with one person only out of love or just living for the heck of it!!.
But recently I came across a letter...or say a love letter by a wife to her husband...I think here is a reply of their and many others question to some extent....and the reply of the husband which was received after 5 months!!!!.......
Hi H
I just wanted to write this to u. I don’t know why but yes I felt a kind of aloofness from your side since past few days. As if you are deliberately trying to get away things from your mind. As if you are disturbed or angry because of something. I don’t know the reason. Though it happened earlier too. There was silence, then long discussions, silence again and finally the happy ending we try and do forgive and forget past thing for each other. We respect each others feelings but sometimes unknowingly may hurt too each other again, afterall we all r humans on earth. or you may not like me for certain things or vice versa.
But the most important part being, we want to finally end the matter and live again happily. Is this the beauty of our marital relationship or just love? I don’t know but the day we settle down happily after a fight is the happiest day of my life.
I agree that priorities change - jobs, kids, responsibilities ...!! Etc etc. May be initially it was very easier to show each other how much we loved each other. Now it's the smaller day-to-day things that do it for us. The smiles, jokes, a touch, a gesture, sharing problems, pains or even a comment…positive or negative but openly discussed with each other….
Earlier it was just love, now with maturity and few years together, it's a combination of love and companionship. There is certain kind of trust that builds over the years, a deep rooted understanding of even so much as a change in facial expression. May be more years to make it perfect. Whatever the words I express, but H. I love you very much same as on the day we first met, first looked into each others eyes… nothing seems good in life if you are not happy. All sharing, caring after disagreements is worth because it makes us feel our presence is necessary in each others lives.
You may find odd reading this mail and I found it hard to write it but somehow I had to tell you how much you mean to me.
LU
urs
W.
Hi W.,
(Copy paste of the old letter) Taking you through memory lane...Itna mat socha karo
hahahaha...I will always b urs no matter how much we fight!!:)
ILU
Only
Urs
H.
